Today, I reached out and opened myself up to anyone who had any questions they may have wanted to ask me about males, from the Gentlemen perspective. I then realized that I could not do that, because I can not speak for all Gentlemen. I can only speak for this Gentleman here, and that is indeed what I'll try my best to do. A good friend of mine came to me with a question, and it'll be my pleasure to attempt to answer. The question reads: SO, guys know girls are emotional and sometimes low-key dramatic...so why do they act all surprised when we act that way!?
I don't think that its all too surprising, I just don't see anyway to prepare for an emotionally dramatic episode. There is no plan of action that works effectively with a relationship problem. You can say this will happen, or that will happen, but that gets lost in the shuffle. Every girl, or at least some I'd assume, will say that they're different than what us, the men, are used to. So when it does happens, it may take us back to those girls we always hear about, or those we may be used to. So, the situation happens, the drama starts, and even the tears my be shed, but hopefully cooler heads will prevail in the end it'll become water under the bridge.
When are guys going to realize that no matter how "cool" a girl is she will never be a dude!? Then they act so surprised when either, one, the girl catches feelings for them or, two, when they get extra possessive. Then they say "Man, she starting to act like a FEMALE"....that because SHE IS!!
I can speak from experience on this situation, I'll admit that it comes up, and looking now I can see the mistakes made. I will say that one of the reason that guys, good guys, probably me and a handful of others, get with a girl is because of her friendship. I realized late that one thing I rarely did when it came to females was enjoy our growing friendship. And often, in a girlfriend or boyfriend, that keyword is dropped. Relationships can eat a person up if there is not a strong foundation somewhere. That foundation is composed of love and friendship. You may have that love, but love can be easily confused with commitment. You may have friendship, but it may only be implied within that title. That love and friendship needs to be genuine. Like no other. For love, that indescribable feeling you have for that person and that friendship, that closeness that gives almost an inner sense of that person undeniably makes that relationship magical. So, when dudes, like myself, find a flaw in the system, it causes a big riff in our mindsets. For we have all these feelings, most of them we can't fully understand, and when that closeness doesn't work in out favor, the problem stops. Its not that we want our girls to be our fellas, but we feel like she is our closest of all friends. When they deny us, she should accept us. When we can't or don't want to talk to them, she should be there with all the understanding, all the answers, and a wisdom similar to that of our mothers (not to be our mothers, but the caring of our mothers). When she "acts like a girl", that hits home with us as well. I know me, myself, I put my lady on high, so I feel that she should be above all those petty issues and situations of that of a normal girl. She is not obligated by it, but blessed with the distinction. So, when I once again realize that she is indeed a girl, I am a bit let down, but my job, as a man, as a gentleman, is to let her know who she is, and who she is to me. My job is to place her back on high, we should work towards out bond yet again.
I hope that I have perhaps shined some light on the subject for you, my friend, and anyone else who may have wanted to know. I do wish all worthy relationships success. Remember to let God in because God is love, and love is the greatest thing in the world. You all have a good night and remember to be a better person.
*Prayin' for Kapoe* Get well soon!
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